The tragedy in Newtown is hitting hard here in the Valley and parents want to know how to approach their kids. The experts recommend a simple, honest approach.
As a parent it's the worst news imaginable. Even though their kids are safe, they're feeling the impact of a tragedy thousands of miles away.
“There's no reason for someone to take anybody's life, let alone a kid,” said parent, Chris Ramos.
“I don't know what I would do, I mean that is so heart-wrenching,” said one grandparent.
Chris Ramos is a father of three and has a 10-year-old daughter in elementary school.
“Something like that it hits close to home,” said Ramos.
Some parents wonder if and when there's a right time to talk to children when tragedy strikes.
Fresno Unified Head Psychologist, Deeds Gill says it's important for parents to start the conversation first.
“To be honest, but also monitor the type of information they would want to share depending upon the age of the child depending upon the nature of what they're talking about,” said Deeds.
With an older kid in middle or high school, be open to answering questions.
When speaking to young children, keep it concise and positive.
“Simple facts, emphasize safety. We know schools are a very safe place…are one of the safest places to be,” said Deeds.
Deeds says it's also good to monitor and even limit the younger children's television and social sites like Facebook and Twitter for the next few days.
“Let the children know that maybe you should do something else right now and then we're going to sit down and talk about it,” said Deeds.
Ramos is still stunned by the tragedy but is going to make time to find a way to explain it to his daughter.
“I mean, they're little kids. Any school, but I mean elementary? There's no reason for that at all,” said Ramos.